You’re searching for a solution to overcome the fear and pain of vaginal insertion—and you’ve come to the right place. As Dr. Julia Reeve, a Gynaecologist, Psychotherapist & Sexologist, I’ve spent over 30 years helping women just like you regain confidence and comfort in their bodies. With my expertise and proven methods, you can take the first step toward a life free from fear and pain. 💙
But…
You feel overwhelmed - there is so much conflicting information out there!
Perhaps you are at the beginning of your journey, or you have searched online, visited doctors, tried various things, and still aren't quite sure what is wrong or what to do.
You are frustrated because you feel pain and discomfort when trying to insert something into the vagina, whether it's a tampon, menstrual cup or even a finger, not to mention a penis.
All of this troubles you and utterly disrupts your physical sensations. You experience fear, and with every new attempt, the fear escalates.
It can be difficult to talk about. You feel ashamed. Finding a solution is difficult when you don't know what it is and that this condition is called vaginismus.
Do you have vaginismus?
1 + 2 + 3 = vaginismus
If you can answer yes to all three statements, it is very likely that you have vaginismus.
AT LEAST ONE OR EVEN MORE OF THE FOLLOWING POINTS:
→ Problems with vaginal penetration during sexual intercourse or attempted sexual intercourse.
→ Pain in the genital area or pelvis during vaginal intercourse or attempted sexual intercourse.
→ Fear of pain in anticipation, during, or as a result of vaginal penetration.
→ Tension in the pelvic floor muscles during attempted vaginal penetration.
These symptoms have been present for more than six months
AND
the symptoms cause significant distress.
→ There are no other non-sexual psychological disorders
→ OR stress factors (such as partner violence)
→ Or effects of medication or other medical conditions (such as estrogen deficiency in menopause or skin conditions such as lichen sclerosus)
Lets get things straight
If something comes near your vaginal opening or touches you "down there", you experience the following and you:
❗ feel a tightness in your lower abdomen.
❗feel fear that something life-threatening will happen.
❗can't touch any area down there because it causes pain.
❗feel your pelvic floor muscles tensing up.
❗can't insert anything into the vagina.
Then it's likely that you're suffering from vaginismus.
But that`s not all...
- you can't use tampons or menstrual cups.
- you often avoid situations where something is inserted into the vagina, such as a visit to the gynecologist.
- you experience pain when attempting to have sexual intercourse with vaginal penetration.
- you feel anxiety in anticipation of sex with vaginal penetration, which triggers pain.
- you have difficulty getting pregnant because you can't have sex with penetration.
Ouch!
What´s up ?
Fear and pain hold you back and tie you down...
Because that's what it´s like, right?
It can be difficult and painful to live with vaginismus, and it's normal to think that you are responsible for it.
But vaginismus is NOT your fault!
It is a condition that can affect women of all ages and backgrounds.
There are many different reasons why vaginismus develops.
After all, one in ten women worldwide are affected by it!
However, if you don't want to or need to insert anything into the vagina, then you don't have any problems at all!
Let me explain...
The muscle spasm causes the pain.
Even the fear of pain can already "hurt".
BUT vaginismus is not just a muscle spasm - that's just the tip of the iceberg!
It's an anxiety reaction cycle, and the muscle spasm is the reflex that goes along with it.
This cycle leads to the same feeling you would get if you suddenly encountered a life-threatening situation, like a lion on the street when you turn the corner.
You are about to be eaten, you need to run away or fight!
Your whole body reacts in shock automatically, you are no longer in control.
All your senses are sharp; you hear, see and feel everything very precisely.
It's all about survival.
As soon as the "lion" withdraws, you feel relieved but totally frustrated!
The "lion" can be a friend/husband, a doctor, a tampon...
And every time something like this happens to you, your body learns that it has successfully protected you...
The downside is: the reaction will unfold faster and "better" every next time!
The brain learns what is repeated, whether it's good or bad for you.
Let`s do a quick and easy exercise...
Cough hard and pay attention to your pelvic floor.
Do you feel it tensing up?
Can you prevent it?
Try coughing again without tensing the muscles.
You can't, right?
That's an involuntary spasm. And the muscle reflex in vaginismus is also an involuntary, unconscious tension.
You didn't choose this, you can't control it, and it makes vaginal penetration painful.
The good thing is...
It's possible to work towards managing the anxiety reaction cycle associated with vaginismus.
Isn't that really difficult?
Yes, of course.
Dealing with vaginismus is a journey towards self-determination and control over your own body.
The goal is to help you feel less limited by the challenges of vaginismus.
With the freedom to choose what you want for your own body, you will be able to explore your own desires and experience pleasure in your own way.
Whether you are seeking intimacy with your partner, starting a family, wanting to feel free, traveling the world, or checking your health with your gynaecologist - you have the power to make these decisions based on your own needs.
Vaginismus doesn't have to define your life. Embrace the opportunity for personal empowerment and start your journey toward self-discovery today!
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- operations
- injections
- hypnosis
- psychotherapy alone
- pelvic floor training
- to travel
- overnight hotel stays
- surgery consultations or visits
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👉 Gain insights into your body's needs and how to meet them.
👉 Discover personal desires and preferences in a comfortable setting.
👉 Explore ways to reduce discomfort during vaginal penetration.
👉 Foster intimacy with your partner.
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👉 Make informed decisions based on your well-being.
This is where the path to your new life starts!
"We wasted 10 years trying all sorts out...
I thought the therapy was too expensive, but it isn`t at all - I think we would have payed ten times the amount! 10 years of frustration and tears, and just one day after therapy we had sex without any fear or pain! I now feel like a "real woman", I´m a lover and a mother!
I gained the whole world and lost all my frustration and fear.
My entire future is now different - that's worth millions."
Jessica, 35
"After 2 weeks of exercises, I slept with my boyfriend for the first time!
Tampons a huge problem, going to see the gynaecologist was an even bigger problem, having sex with my boyfriend - impossible!
What's wrong with me?
I kept asking myself this question over and over again, year in and year out.
After visiting a forum and talking about Dr. Reeve, I thought she was just an incredibly good writer. My name is not Riette, that's my pseudonym! BUT what I'm writing is real. Three days with Dr. Reeve and after just two weeks of dilator exercises, I slept with my boyfriend for the first time!"
Riette, 25
Just imagine...
Imagine feeling more empowered and confident, gradually overcoming the challenges associated with vaginismus.
🌟 Imagine moving beyond the fear and discomfort that has been a part of your life.
🌟 Envision a life where physical intimacy is approached with understanding and patience, not fear.
🌟 Visualize yourself no longer feeling bound by comparisons but focusing on your personal growth and relationships.
Embrace your journey confidently and without shame, finding support at every step.
You might feel that you’re left with 2 choices:
Even if insertion isn't your goal, you might still seek change. You can embrace who you are without embarrassment—it's not just about sex, but about feeling free in all aspects of life.
Finally, you can rediscover your freedom!
Living
With(out)
Sex
includes
7 Modules
These unique modules include the proven method used in my practice for over 25 years. My approach combines psychotherapy, gynaecology, psychoeducational and neuroscientific concepts.
25+ Lessons
Full library of videos explaining vaginismus in detail and understanding the mechanisms you can use to manage it. In-person participants have reported experiencing noticeable improvements within 30 days.
Live Online Sessions
In these sessions, answers to questions will be provided and explanations will be given. Anonymous participation possible.
Can this be effective online? Absolutely!
Dr. Reeve guides her patients through self-administered techniques, meaning you can learn and apply these methods at home and at your own pace, just as effectively.
The Living With(out) Sex Online Course
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Your Individual Liberation Journey
Enroll now and begin a transformative journey to manage vaginismus. Embrace intimacy and empower yourself to live the fulfilling and joyful life you deserve.
I’m Dr. Julia Reeve
a gynecologist, obstetrician, psychotherapist, sexologist, and vaginismus therapy specialist with a unique approach to helping women manage vaginismus. The 'Living With Sex Online Course' is the culmination of my experience, designed to empower women like you to manage symptoms of vaginismus, reclaim confidence, and find pleasure and security in their intimate relationships.
"For me, the biggest step was to decide to trust in the therapy. I couldn't imagine that it could ever help so fast. I had been suffering for so long. I had tried everything from hypnosis to Botox nothing helped, I had always been disappointed. This was going to be my last attempt at finding peace. I couldn't believe it would help within just 30 days. I am so glad my husband and I didn't lose faith - we had pain-free sex within just 10 days of therapy. I still can't believe it."
- Jana (34 years old)
I understand you might feel like you’ve tried everything to manage vaginismus, and perhaps you're hesitant to try again. But what if there's still an option you haven’t explored? Consider this opportunity with an open mind— it could be different.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I am not sure that I have vaginismus?
Are you struggling with the pain and fear of vaginismus, even if you're currently not sexually active?
I am frightened of failing – what can I do?
What if my vaginismus is the worst there is?
Why is it better to have an accountability partner?
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