You are desperately seeking a solution to ensure there is no fear or pain when attempting to insert something into the vagina.
But…
You feel overwhelmed - there is so much conflicting information out there!
Perhaps you are at the beginning of your journey, or you have searched online, visited doctors, tried various things, and still aren't quite sure what is wrong or what to do.
You are frustrated because you feel pain and discomfort when trying to insert something into the vagina, whether it's a tampon, menstrual cup or even a finger, not to mention a penis.
All of this troubles you and utterly disrupts your physical sensations. You experience fear, and with every new attempt, the fear escalates.
It can be difficult to talk about. You feel ashamed. Finding a solution is difficult when you don't know what it is and that this condition is called vaginismus.
Do you have vaginismus?
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1 + 2 + 3 = vaginismus
If you can answer yes to all three statements, it is very likely that you have vaginismus.
AT LEAST ONE OR EVEN MORE OF THE FOLLOWING POINTS:
→ Problems with vaginal penetration during sexual intercourse or attempted sexual intercourse.
→ Pain in the genital area or pelvis during vaginal intercourse or attempted sexual intercourse.
→ Fear of pain in anticipation, during, or as a result of vaginal penetration.
→ Tension in the pelvic floor muscles during attempted vaginal penetration.
These symptoms have been present for more than six months
AND
the symptoms cause significant distress.
→ There are no other non-sexual psychological disorders
→ OR stress factors (such as partner violence)
→ Or effects of medication or other medical conditions (such as estrogen deficiency in menopause or skin conditions such as lichen sclerosus)
Lets get things straight
If something comes near your vaginal opening or touches you "down there", you experience the following and you:
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âť— feel a tightness in your lower abdomen.
âť—feel fear that something life-threatening will happen.
âť—can't touch any area down there because it causes pain.
âť—feel your pelvic floor muscles tensing up.
âť—can't insert anything into the vagina.
Then it's likely that you're suffering from vaginismus.
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But that`s not all...
- you can't use tampons or menstrual cups.
- you often avoid situations where something is inserted into the vagina, such as a visit to the gynecologist.
- you experience pain when attempting to have sexual intercourse with vaginal penetration.
- you feel anxiety in anticipation of sex with vaginal penetration, which triggers pain.
- you have difficulty getting pregnant because you can't have sex with penetration.
Ouch!
 What´s up ?
Fear and pain hold you back and tie you down...
Because that's what it´s like, right?
It can be difficult and painful to live with vaginismus, and it's normal to think that you are responsible for it.
But vaginismus is NOT your fault!
It is a condition that can affect women of all ages and backgrounds.
There are many different reasons why vaginismus develops.
After all, one in ten women worldwide are affected by it!
However, if you don't want to or need to insert anything into the vagina, then you don't have any problems at all!
Let me explain...
The muscle spasm causes the pain.Â
Even the fear of pain can already "hurt".
BUT vaginismus is not just a muscle spasm - that's just the tip of the iceberg!
It's an anxiety reaction cycle, and the muscle spasm is the reflex that goes along with it.
This cycle leads to the same feeling you would get if you suddenly encountered a life-threatening situation, like a lion on the street when you turn the corner.
You are about to be eaten, you need to run away or fight!
Your whole body reacts in shock automatically, you are no longer in control.
All your senses are sharp; you hear, see and feel everything very precisely.
It's all about survival.
As soon as the "lion" withdraws, you feel relieved but totally frustrated!
The "lion" can be a friend/husband, a doctor, a tampon...
And every time something like this happens to you, your body learns that it has successfully protected you...
The downside is: the reaction will unfold faster and "better" every next time!
The brain learns what is repeated, whether it's good or bad for you.
Let`s do a quick and easy exercise...
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Cough hard and pay attention to your pelvic floor.
Do you feel it tensing up?
Can you prevent it?
Try coughing again without tensing the muscles.
You can't, right?
That's an involuntary spasm. And the muscle reflex in vaginismus is also an involuntary, unconscious tension.
You didn't choose this, you can't control it, and it makes vaginal penetration painful.
The good thing is...Â
This anxiety reaction cycle can be reconditioned and completely disappear.
Isn't that really difficult?
Yes, of course.
Dealing with vaginismus is a journey towards self-determination and control over your own body.
You will no longer feel limited or defined by vaginismus, and any doubts or fears about not being a 'normal' woman will eventually fade away.
With the freedom to choose what you want for your own body, you will be able to explore your own desires and experience pleasure in your own way.
Whether you are seeking intimacy with your partner, starting a family, wanting to feel free, traveling the world, or checking your health with your gynaecologist - you have the power to make these decisions based on your own needs.
Don't let vaginismus hold you back from the life you want. Take the first step towards self-determination and start your journey today!
Yes! Start now!
ENOUGH ALREADY!
Regain control and inner peace...
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You can stop...
- Trying different therapies
- Going from one doctor to another
- Hoping to magically find a cure
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My program, a professionally guided desensitization process, is unique and not available anywhere else, as I developed it myself.
In order to deal with vaginismus, you don`t need:
- operations
- injections
- hypnosis
- psychotherapy alone
- pelvic floor trainingÂ
- to travel
- overnight hotel staysÂ
- surgery consultations or visits
This program addresses all your questions and provides a comprehensive plan to follow. With this guidance, you will be better equipped to...
- Feel self-determined and in control of your own body.
- Increase your self-confidence and self-esteem.
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- Understand and influence your body and its needs.
- Explore your own desires and preferences.
- Avoid pain and discomfort during vaginal penetration.
- Improve intimacy with a partner.
- Get pregnant and start a family.
- Use tampons and menstrual cups.
- Pursue travel, career, or other life goals without physical limitations.
- Make decisions according to your own needs.
This is where the path to your new life starts!
"We wasted 10 years trying all sorts out...
I thought the therapy was too expensive, but it isn`t at all - I think we would have payed ten times the amount! 10 years of frustration and tears, and just one day after therapy we had sex without any fear or pain! I now feel like a "real woman", I´m a lover and a mother!
I gained the whole world and lost all my frustration and fear.
My entire future is now different - that's worth millions."
Jessica, 35
"After 2 weeks of exercises, I slept with my boyfriend for the first time!
Tampons a huge problem, going to see the gynaecologist was an even bigger problem, having sex with my boyfriend - impossible!
What's wrong with me?
I kept asking myself this question over and over again, year in and year out.
After visiting a forum and talking about Dr. Reeve, I thought she was just an incredibly good writer. My name is not Riette, that's my pseudonym! BUT what I'm writing is real. Three days with Dr. Reeve and after just two weeks of dilator exercises, I slept with my boyfriend for the first time!"
Riette, 25
Just imagine...
You are confident, strong, and above all...
- Free from all the limitations that come with vaginismus.
- Free from the fear and shame of your vaginal pain.
- Free from the fear of physical intimacy with a partner.
- Free from the frustration of comparing yourself to others who have a great sex life, relationship, or children.
You can achieve this too! With this program, you, too, can accomplish that.
You don't need to hide anything anymore, or feel ashamed - You are free!
You might feel that you’re left with 2 choices:
Even if you don't need or want to insert anything, you might still want to make changes in your life and future. You don't have to feel embarrassed anymore - you can be free to be yourself!
At long last,
you can feel
free again!
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Can this work online?
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I’m Dr. Julia Reeve
My unique background led me to become an expert at helping women deal with vaginismus. I am a gynaecologist, obstetrician, psychotherapist, sexologist, vaginismus therapy specialist.
I’ve created the Living With Sex Online Course based on my success in helping patients just like you to be able to deal with vaginismus. I have helped them experience pleasure during sex, get pregnant, re-claim their confidence, stop their fear, and anxiety, so they can have pain and fear-free sex and most importantly, go on to feel secure in their relationships.
"For me, the biggest step was to decide to trust in the therapy. I couldn't imagine that it could ever help so fast. I had been suffering for so long. I had tried everything from hypnosis to Botox nothing helped, I had always been disappointed. This was going to be my last attempt at finding peace. I couldn't believe it would help within just 30 days. I am so glad my husband and I didn't lose faith - we had pain-free sex within just 10 days of therapy. I still can't believe it."
- Jana (34 years old)
I know you have been telling yourself,
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that you will never be able to deal with vaginismus, and you have probably already said that the last attempt... was the last attempt. You don't want to try this or that therapy or this or that remedy any more - you've heard it all.
Until now!
Don't miss this opportunity!
Let's deal with it!
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I am not sure that I have vaginismus?
Are you struggling with the pain and fear of vaginismus, even if you're currently not sexually active?
I am frightened of failing – what can I do?
What if my vaginismus is the worst there is?
Why is it better to have an accountability partner?
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